Roadmap For Change
A peronal outlline for positive change and healthy dependancy in the world
(this is a lot harder than it looks)
My three best qualities are:
1. I am generous.
2. I love deeply, and undconditionally, offering praise, affection, and warmth to almost anyone.
3. I am very creative.
Three things I would like to change about myself are:
1. I stick my neck out often, and end up pretty deeply hurt.
I would like to learn to either endure the results of the risks I take more elegantly, or refine my instincts and make better decisions about when it is appropriate to make myself personally vulnerable.
2. I am generally an all or nothing person.
I would like to accept this about myself, and stop trying to be something I’m not.
3. I am brutally hard on myself.
I would like to learn ways of motivating, and refining my crafts without this brutality.
The three best things about my most important relationship are:
1. I feel sincere unconditional love and friendship for them, and with them.
2. I have a devoted interest in their growth and well being.
3. Our time together.
Time spent, thoughts and feelingsd exchanged are literally everything to me.
Three things I would like to change about my most important relationship are:
1. I would like to share more of our devlopment and inner workings togehter.
I would like to be more involved, and more honest. I would like to participate as equals in growth and change. If only in terms of communication about development and discovery as a work in progress.
2. I would like to shoulder more of the burden, more gracefully.
I don’t feel that I am successful, I am unable to provide all that I believe I should. Both because I am not there yet, and because my efforts to assist, comfort, and share in difficulties seem to be blocked.
3. I would like to bring more lightness, and ease into the relationship.
I am very intense, and very serious. I would like to play more, and bring a welcome ease into the relationship more often.
What about you?
Feel free to answer here, or take the questions and add them to your own blog.
Know yourself, love yourself, learn, grow, fly, be free.
Questions © 2003 Robert F. Bornstein and Mary A. Languirand
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This may seem kinda strange…
The idea of this is that you and the person in your most significant relationship (your lover, your father, your child) each answer the questions, privately.
Then exchange the documents, and ask each person to read the other’s answers. First to themselves, and then you exchange the answers one by one, each in turn.
Don’t Do This in a hostile situation, and please only attempt this type of thing on your own if you believe that you are safe, loved, and your honesty will be appreciated and heard.
Otherwise: you may want to seek outside assistance in order to exchange these kinds of ideas with your partner.